10 Jan AN INTERVIEW BY “AYUDA PARA ESCRITORES”(“HELP FOR WRITTERS”): SERGI TORRES ON FEARS AND ACCEPTANCE
According to Sergi’s website: he is an author and lecturer. Born in Barcelona (1975) and at the age of 3 begins to question his own life “What have I been before being Sergi?” Performs the studies of Physical Therapy. For 10 years, he works as a physiotherapist until his life leads him to dedicate himself exclusively to his current work: To invite people to discover that behind any emotion, situation or thought there is absolute peace and that our way of seeing the world builds a false Reality in front of us.
What was Sergi like in the past?
Today is a memory for which I feel much affection and gratitude. It is very blurred in my head. A few days ago I found some friends from the past and as usually happens in these situations the talks dance around the lived together. I had a hard time recognizing that Sergi of whom they spoke, I just identify myself. At the end of a talk in which I presented the first book, one of my aunts came and gripping my hands firmly asked me “Where is my nephew, where is he?
All masters of self-knowledge, usually go through some experience that leads to the search for answers. What was the experience that made you wake up?
I remember from a very young age asking me questions that were directed to remember who I was before being Sergi. But all these self-questions were lost during adolescence until at age 21 I lived something that collapsed the perspective I had built on life, people and me. Everything fell apart.
What trails did you start to follow? (Books, mentors, religion, etc.)
After that overturn, I remembered from my childhood that nothing and no one has my answers. Even so, people, books and teachings were coming into my life that were leading me. Perhaps what helped me most in that regard was the book of A Course in Miracles. A teaching, a teacher or a book helps as long as they accompany you and not to them, but the key lies in oneself by using them in that way as well.
Do you do some kind of meditation or relaxation technique?
Living is more than enough. I like to feel what I feel in real time. This does not require technique or meditation, but to live and be honest with oneself. Getting to feel what I feel now does not depend on a concrete way of doing it but on a willingness to do so. I do not know about techniques and many people ask me for techniques, but this silent and invisible honesty is not learned.
Being aware of the present is very difficult. How can we resituate ourselves?
Accepting the present, welcoming what happens. It is often difficult for us to be aware of the present because we are accustomed to not wanting to feel. When you do not live in harmony with yourself, what you feel is often uncomfortable. Not knowing who we are or why we live our lives, in the depths of our emotions, we feel fear. Feeling the present, then, makes us aware of that fear and therefore unwittingly decide not to feel it.
Being present seems difficult, but in reality that difficulty arises from not wanting to feel. From this arises the need to disperse the mind in our past and in our future as if they were bunkers that protect us from the intensity of the present. When someone asks me for help to be present, I know that person does not realize that he already is and also know that he does not realize because he does not want to feel the fear that he hides behind his desire to be present.
What is fear and how does it manifest?
Fear is, in essence, an anomaly lived from a mentality opposed to sanity and balance. It is an experience that one invents, but without realizing it, because we believe that fear is caused by something alien to us. The origin of fear lies in the separate perception of reality. Seeing us separate from every tale surrounds us, all this becomes a potential threat. This mistrust in life, you have to generate it, because life itself is not cause of fear to be the one that gives us place and the one that sustains our conscience. This is sometimes complex to understand because we understand fear as an emotion or sensation, when in reality it is a mental state, an invented mental state that contrasts with the natural state of being, open to life.
How can we not be dragged by fear?
The only way not to be dragged by fear is not being afraid to feel it. Because the moment one is afraid to feel fear, we react and the reaction is fear in action. We react so unconsciously that we do not even realize that we are feeling fear, and that behind it, there is a belief or thought thought for ourselves. So the way you do not get carried away by it is to begin to open up to feel it. Feeling is the opposite of fleeing and therefore not an unconscious reaction, but a conscious action. We do not know to what extent we are addicted to fear, we are so afraid that we are afraid to release fear. We are afraid to live a fearless life experience because we think that without fear, we will not know how to handle and control our lives. Control and life are opposites. In fact, control is also a manifestation of fear.
How can we not be slaves of our thoughts and emotions and have greater capacity of concentration?
Being aware of our self-slavery. If we are not aware that we are slaves of our way of thinking and feeling, we can not free ourselves from it. In this sense, everything that surrounds us, relationships, people and situations, have as primary function to show us to what extent we are slaves of what we think and feel and how we react continuously to everything without realizing it. The interesting thing is that very few people actually want to see this.
Being aware of this first involves being honest. Many people want to get rid of something without having assumed it. When one tries to overcome or free oneself from something not assumed, he is actually fleeing. For our part, the only thing we can do is open ourselves to live life as it is. As long as we are self-slaves of our ideas, perceptions and sensations, life will be designed to shake our ignorance so that it can be seen and thus reach the first step: honesty.
The inner monologue, should you shut it up? What is it for?
What we call internal monologue, we often do not listen because we are identified with that voice. When you are not aware of that monologue, your ability to discern and your wisdom pass into the unconscious and you become a character, a personality. Having personality is not bad, it just covers our essential consciousness. If you try to silence that monologue without having realized it before that voice is not you, when you try to silence it, you are going to suffer because you are going to believe that you are rejecting yourself or that you are giving up something important to you . This feels as if you are striving to suppress an uncontrollable voice. If that’s how you feel, it’s a sign that you’re trying to silence something with what you still identify. The proposal, then, is just the opposite: be attentive to the monologue, not to give it value, but to realize that you are not that voice. After this it will not be necessary to silence her, because knowing that you are not that voice you will not follow her anymore, and by not following her you will not feed her and vanish, she will be alone.
The trap is that the same monologue will dictate how to overcome it and become an “antimonologue” teacher, but what you really want is to continue to care for it and give it importance. That is why when one is obsessed with silencing the internal monologue, it is because he is following the instructions of the same monologue. Everything that is not peace is the fruit of the monologue.
The inner monologue is the voice of fear and in itself is of no use, but we ourselves, without being aware, give it the function of distracting ourselves, claiming our attention, telling us how to be happy, how to earn money, how to live in peace, how Make us love that person This unconscious but voluntary distraction allows us not to feel the panic to not know who we are or why we are alive. When we realize the stupidity of continuing to hide fear, it loses the usefulness we give it and vanishes.
You say that brain reality is a state of drowsiness. Can you explain it to me?
The world we perceive is based on our brain, on how it is and especially on how we use it. Our way of using the brain leads us to live subjected to the world of their perceptions. In them we base our ability to formulate understanding and the sense of reality through images. These images the brain creates by associating other images of the past, or in other words, prejudices. When we dream, the brain generates a reality of images based on the same process we have described before, but for us the waking, unlike the dream, is real because we think that what we perceive exists outside our brain, but in reality, As we have said all that we perceive are images that the brain configures so that we can have a sensation of reality. So both the dream and what we have called reality are two stories that our brain tells us.
What would you say to all the people who feel alone, misunderstood, even by circumstances that involve excessive emotionality caused by hormonal alterations like depression, mental and physical illnesses? What would you say to them to find some inner calm and serenity?
When we are feeling something that we do not support or that bothers us, we call it having a bad time, but in reality we do not have a bad time because of what we feel but rather because we still do not know how to feel it and instead of living it we run away from it. When one still suffers from something, it implies that one has not yet reached the depth of that feeling and that consequently we have not yet learned to feel it. In order to become masters of what we feel we must feel it devoid of interpretations.
If someone asked me what to do in the cases you expose, I would invite you to do the same as do those who do not fear life, to welcome what they feel, to live it, to exist, to be. Everything I try to do to stop feeling something, is going to go against what I feel and therefore against myself, too. Doing this does not make sense. I will not find peace by rejecting what I feel. I will not feel any less just to avoid that feeling. The interesting thing is that even knowing this, we continue doing it in the same way over and over again because of the identified that we are with our suffering.
Nothing causes us what we feel apart from an unconscious decision that hopes to be discovered in order to be assumed. If we look closely at our suffering or any sensation (including what we have called positive), we will see that behind it there is always an interpretation about that. To bring awareness to this unconscious place transforms us from victims to teachers.
What are your Sergi teachers?
All that or what appears in my life, shows me something of me that without that person or situation I would not see.
What books would you recommend?
Those who somehow call us to read them.
How many books have you written? What are they trying?
To date I have written two books. Both are an invitation to discover a reality behind what we have established as human beings, an essential reality that goes beyond times, religions, philosophies, economies, people and ways of being.
What are you talking about in your seminars?
I can not answer you, because what emerges in a seminary is always born in the same seminary. Yes I can tell you that what I say is meant to invite us to go beyond our fears and venture into the infinite space of our heart. This seems very nice, requires honesty, courage and confidence.
What is the most common problem you find in people seeking answers in you?
They do not remember that they are the answer.
Do you have references?
The consciousness at this moment is the referent. Nothing else is.
What is your favorite author?
Whoever when his text reaches my hands when reading it I hear the whole universe speak to me through those words.
What new projects are waiting for you in the short term?
We are now working on a book proposed by Uranus Editions and also, attentive to the Will of this mysterious Infinite Consciousness.
Interview made by: Help for writers
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Interview by @La_Kristo